YouTube persona Myka Stauffer is going through backlash after asserting her household‘s determination to “rehome” their adopted 4-year-old autistic son from China following unspecified behavioral points.
Stauffer, a mom of 4 different youngsters with over 75 million views and 717,00zero subscribers on YouTube, revealed in a video that her son Huxley has a brand new “perpetually household” that is higher geared up to deal with his particular wants greater than two years after she and her husband adopted him.
“With worldwide adoption, generally there are unknowns and issues that aren’t clear on information,” her husband James Stauffer, 34, mentioned in Tuesday’s video. “As soon as Huxley got here house, there was much more particular wants that we weren’t conscious of, and that we weren’t informed.”
The Stauffers adopted Huxley from China in October 2017, documenting their complete worldwide adoption journey on their YouTube channel. An emotional video of the Stauffers bringing Huxley house from China acquired over 5.5 million views in 2017.
After his adoption, Stauffer realized that Huxley “was profoundly developmentally delayed,” she recalled in a weblog submit for The Bump in 2019. She claimed the adoption company solely mentioned he was “identified with a mind cyst,” however after they first met him “we knew one thing was terribly off.”
Stauffer mentioned she later realized that Huxley “had a stroke in utero” and check outcomes decided he had “autism spectrum dysfunction stage 3.” The couple mentioned they positioned Huxley in intense therapies to satisfy his wants however his situation did not enhance.
“There’s not an oz. of our physique that does not love Huxley with all of our being,” Stauffer mentioned in her newest replace video whereas preventing tears. “There wasn’t a minute that I did not strive our hardest and I feel what (James) is making an attempt to say is that after a number of assessments, after a number of evaluations, quite a few medical professionals have felt that he wanted a distinct match (for) his medical wants. He wanted extra.”
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The mommy vlogger mentioned giving up Huxley “the final couple months have been the toughest factor I might have ever imagined…selecting to do.” She added, “Do I really feel like a failure as a mother? Like, 500 p.c.”
However, Stauffer mentioned Huxley is with a “more healthy match” to satisfy his “extreme wants.”
“He’s thriving, he’s very joyful, he’s doing very well,” she mentioned, “and his new mommy has medical skilled coaching, and it’s a superb match.”
The Stauffers did not go into element about Huxley’s behavioral points that led them to put him with one other household, citing the kid‘s privateness and ongoing authorized points.
“Please have grace with us,” she concluded their video announcement. “We’re nonetheless struggling. We’re going to be heartbroken for a really very long time.”
Stauffer has 4 different youngsters – daughters Kova, 8, Jaka, 6, sons Radley, 4, and Onyx, 11 months.
Huxley turns 5 subsequent week.
The Stauffers revelation immediately sparked backlash on social media, with many followers accusing the couple of exploiting Huxley to spice up their YouTube profession.<
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The last couple days have been hard I don’t want to sugar coat anything. We have had a lot of melt downs, and lots of behaviors that have had us on our knees begging god for guidance! On social medial and Youtube we rarely show the behaviors or the hard stuff, because we try our best to respect our sons privacy and dignity. We have hard days, lots of them. I wish autism and adoption trauma had a manual to direct you through it all.💙🧩#autism #momstruggles #everydayisanewday
“Myka Stauffer and her husband James adopted a boy from China and exploited him for Youtube clout,” tweeted @eugenegu. “However when he bought older they discovered him a brand new ‘perpetually house‘ like a pet that outgrew its welcome and never an precise human being.”
“@MykaStauffer think about writing out these captions and never which means a single phrase,” @ParticleSoop tweeted, referring to screenshots of Stauffer’s Instagram posts. “You adopted him solely for the eye it will provide you with and now you’re giving him away. Unbelievable.”
@MykaStauffer think about writing out these captions and never which means a single phrase. You adopted him solely for the eye it will provide you with and now you’re giving him away. Unbelievable pic.twitter.com/68pfN1I2jP
— Not Nora (@ParticleSoop) May 27, 2020
Person @afloralmind added: “I simply watched #MykaStauffer YT video on how they gave up their adopted autistic little one. As somebody who reads conduct for a dwelling, all I’ve to say is that for those who had been really expressing your love for the lack of your little one, you wouldn’t have ‘subscribe’ in your video.”
Regardless of the overwhelming backlash, the Stauffers additionally acquired some help.
“I respect you a lot for having the braveness to make such a heartbreaking and laborious determination. You might be such nice dad and mom,” Rachel Lee commented on YouTube.
Stephanie Valencia commented: “I’m so sorry. I want Huxley the perfect in life. He’s a cool little dude.”